We often hear about women getting frustrated that men are only interested in their bodies and not in who they are.
    “He stared at my chest the whole time I was talking to him!” they’ll complain, lamenting the fact that men are only after “one thing.” 
    However, the truth is that more often than not it is women’s fault that they are objectified, not the men’s.
    Sure, men have the ability to control their eyes and impulses, and it is disrespectful to look at someone as though she were nothing but eye candy, but some women practically hand out invitations for people to focus on their physical attributes by the way they choose to dress.
    Typically, when asked what they would like others to notice first about them, women answer with aspects of their personality, like intelligence, kindness, etc. Rarely does anyone answer this question with, “my breasts, of course!” 
    But then they undermine themselves by putting their bodies and not their personalities on display. A sexy halter top is designed to call attention to a woman’s shoulders, not her sense of humor. A body-hugging sheath is worn to emphasize curves, not cleverness.
    Why do so many career and employment counselors advise students to wear subtle, professional and modest clothing to job interviews? Wouldn’t it make sense for students to wear something risqué and revealing so they might catch an employer’s attention and stick out in his or her memory?
    Of course not. Unless they are applying for a job as an exotic dancer or a model, displaying their bodies would only distract from what they are actually selling, which is their skill and experience — not their physicality. 
    The same is true about everyday living. If women truly want others to notice their personality as they say they do, they should present themselves in such a way that their desired qualities are highlighted rather than overshadowed. The best way to do this is to wear clothing that does not call attention to their bodies, so they are free to let their integrity or friendliness shine through. 
    Women who want to be admired for their long legs or flat stomach should dress accordingly, displaying their bodies however they would like and enjoying the praise they receive when they are admired.



Jessica Ulrich is a junior in English. Please send comments to opinion@spub.ksu.edu.